Hi, my name is Tiffani Beaston and I am an annoying Instagram mom. I post way too often and use way to many hashtags. I must be attention seeking. Maybe I even have no real life friends so I need internet “strangers” as friends.
I just wanted to talk about being an annoying Instagram mom. Maybe it actually is annoying to some, but luckily there is an unfollow button to the right of my profile picture. In the past people have used passive aggressive qoutes and memes to try and bring me down. One that I remember went something like “life is too short so make sure you put up as many pictures as possible for attention from internet strangers.” Im sure I totally botched that quote but it was something along those lines. What I don’t understand is why someone would google, or pinterest a quote like that to repost. That must have taken way more effort than simply unfollowing me.
The reason I am writing this is not because I am angry or sad. It is to let other mamas going through this realize that there is nothing wrong with posting often. There is something wrong with the people that it bothers. There is something REALLY wrong with the people that continue to follow you and spend their time looking for mean memes or quotes to post. Think about it. That person literally took time out of their day to look for something negative to try and bring you down. That takes effort!
Why do these annoying Instagram moms post so often? A lot of us are stay at home moms, or moms that don’t work as much, or moms that work from home. Sometimes it gets lonely only talking to infants and toddlers. Commenting on photos, or posting a photo or Instagram story that mentions what you are going through or how your day is sparks conversations with other moms. This feels good! Its very common to want to talk with someone who is going through the same thing as you, or someone who has advice for you based on what you are going through. I am definitely not leaving out the working mom. Theres working moms who post just as often who also are looking for a connection. Motherhood is hard and it can get lonely. Instagram is an amazing platform to meet other moms. I consider a lot of moms I have “met” on Instagram to be friends!
Putting yourself out there is not easy. When I post I do it for me. That sounds silly but let me explain. There are many nights where I lay in bed and look through my old Instagram stories and reminisce. I am picture obsessed. Taking photos is probably one of my top 3 hobbies. That being said, my phone has soooo many pictures on it. So I just look at my Instagram page. I do it for others too. I like to share what I am going through to be a support system for other moms. Like I said, motherhood is hard! It is so nice to have someone to talk to that is going through the same thing or that can maybe help you out. For instance, I had mastitis and I posted about it. I got so many tips on how to prevent it and even how to treat it naturally. I posted about my postpartum anxiety and SO many moms thanked me for sharing my story because it made them feel like they were not so alone.
When I was a first time mom, I literally had no one to talk to that was going through the same things as me. I felt so alone. All of my friends that had no children pretty much dropped off the face of the earth. You always think people are going to come and visit once you have a baby, but I quickly realized that wasn’t true for me. I turned to Babycenter, and it was great. Once I realized what an amazing community of mothers there was on Instagram it was even better. I loved actually seeing what the people looked like who were sharing their motherhood experiences. I loved seeing what products they used for their babies, what foods they fed them, and especially to see that I wasn’t crazy. That there were other people out there going through what I was going through.
Community over competetion! I don’t compete with anyone but myself. A lot of moms out there may feel like the Instagram motherhood community is a comptetition. Who gets the most likes, collabs, and followers. It really doesn’t have to be like that. It can be scary. Its almost like you post a picture and then just wait to be judged. How many likes will you get, how many comments? Just remember it does not matter how many likes or comments you get. What matters is you have that photo to look back on, a memory to relive.
The point is, don’t let anyone bring you down. Instagram is what you make of it. I personally love my fellow “annoying” Instagram moms and I look forward to “meeting” more and making more friends. Remember, if someone is trying to bring you down…it is only because you are above them. This is their own problem, not yours. Keep on posting too much, you never know who you may have helped!
Love you guys!